Six little secrets……ssshhh!
Will your child be the next American Idol? Not until you, as a parent, play your part.
Music and singing does not come by without hard work and practice. Show them the bliss and let them be. A child is precious, how they practice, how they deal with failure, how they get praised, all play a major role in attaining greatness. Maybe all children don’t get the chance to make it as big, but understanding the genius is not by accident. It is by conscious effort; by you recognizing it. As a responsible parent, your duty is to guide and advise your children. Here are six little secrets to help you to do just that…..ssshhhh!
The first secret……..keep a watchful eye for that one precise moment. It could just be a casual humming or a song in the shower. When you as a parent detect the talent, motivate your child. It triggers fire and a spurt of energy in your child. It’s not just practice and practice after that. Nurturing talent requires passion, motivation, persistence, and the emotional fuel we call love.
The second secret………..do not force your child into constant practice, not by a long shot. Just because you as a child, were forced into singing for long hours as tradition demanded it, do not do the same to your child. Give the child a little space and let them fill it themselves. Let them follow passion and not operate on fear of consequences.
The third secret…………always remember that slow practice is productive. This is one technique that is common to almost all talents. Let your child use his or her talent for singing or playing an instrument as perhaps a ‘de-stresser’. The reason why it works when you go slow is, you can sense and fix more errors, thereby building a better and concrete skill.
The fourth secret ………. always applaud effort more than ability. If a particular note or chord in the song is difficult, help and assist to repeat the tough part till the child masters it. When we praise a child’s intelligence, we are recognizing the actual status, hence the child reacts by taking fewer risks. When we praise effort, however, kids become more inclined to take risks, make mistakes, and learn from them.
The fifth secret…..encourage mimicry. Children are inspired by notable singers and musicians and they love to mimic them. Copying is a shortcut to improving and improvising your skill. Imagining yourself perfecting a skill is a great first step to actually doing it by imitating your favorite artiste, whether you’re singing or dancing.
The sixth secret………stand back. Well, this is not to be taken literally, but as parents we just need to know just when to butt in. The effort has to come from within the child and not by external pressure. Experts say that all parental advice can be distilled into two essential points;
–pay attention to what your child stares at
-praise them for their effort. Don’t say ‘you are smart’, instead applaud the effort. Reward effort and not talent.
So start the process. It is never too early, it is never too late. Your child is the BEST so give that little extra effort and tune them into the very best performers of music.